Hi,
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Bit of a deep one today.
I have been thinking recently on self-criticism and the way we use it.
I am imperfect. I am not going to lie and pretend that because I have a handful of good qualities and a handful of good situations in my life that I am a perfect person. I am ordinary and am not going to promote this twisted non-existent "Hollywood" sort of idea that we must strive for perfection.
Negative things will happen, or you will feel like something you have done has been negative or will cause a bad consequence.
We are humans. It sounds very boring and bland and obvious. It's very overused and it's effect is lost, but its only because it's so easy to forgot, we are born with little to no knowledge and must be taught everything. In every way we are always developing.
But we hinder ourselves but brushing mistakes we make aside with vicious self-critical excuses.
What actually comes of that? Do you or anyone benefit in anyway from saying something negative about yourself?
You're voicing something that is probably your own impression of the situation, generalizes and categorizes yourself and doesn't reflect what mostly everyone thinks of you.
Saying, "I'm such an idiot," when you make a mistake doesn't fix what happened. It doesn't change anything. It probably doesn't make you feel any better about yourself or the situation.
If you say it enough people will think it's unarguable and will give little or no effort into disagreeing with you, making you feel worse. Or at the worse they will eventually believe you, take it as "fact" and call you out on it.
Picking up on people's mistakes in a positive way is a good thing. Digging at someone for the way they behave is bullying.
If we take time out to say,
"Oh that was not really very clever, I could have done that differently, but I didn't. So I will accept it, learn and try again next time."
Rather than,
"I'm such an idiot! Why did I do that!?"
Most likely we will feel better and avoid it in the future.
If you've got enough mentality to say "I'm such an idiot,"
Then you are very clearly... not an idiot.
If someone said that to you, you might get angry at them or cry. That's what your mind is doing quietly when you say things like that to yourself.
Hope you liked this post,
Ruby-Leigh xx
I have been thinking recently on self-criticism and the way we use it.
I am imperfect. I am not going to lie and pretend that because I have a handful of good qualities and a handful of good situations in my life that I am a perfect person. I am ordinary and am not going to promote this twisted non-existent "Hollywood" sort of idea that we must strive for perfection.
Negative things will happen, or you will feel like something you have done has been negative or will cause a bad consequence.
We are humans. It sounds very boring and bland and obvious. It's very overused and it's effect is lost, but its only because it's so easy to forgot, we are born with little to no knowledge and must be taught everything. In every way we are always developing.
But we hinder ourselves but brushing mistakes we make aside with vicious self-critical excuses.
What actually comes of that? Do you or anyone benefit in anyway from saying something negative about yourself?
You're voicing something that is probably your own impression of the situation, generalizes and categorizes yourself and doesn't reflect what mostly everyone thinks of you.
Saying, "I'm such an idiot," when you make a mistake doesn't fix what happened. It doesn't change anything. It probably doesn't make you feel any better about yourself or the situation.
If you say it enough people will think it's unarguable and will give little or no effort into disagreeing with you, making you feel worse. Or at the worse they will eventually believe you, take it as "fact" and call you out on it.
Picking up on people's mistakes in a positive way is a good thing. Digging at someone for the way they behave is bullying.
If we take time out to say,
"Oh that was not really very clever, I could have done that differently, but I didn't. So I will accept it, learn and try again next time."
Rather than,
"I'm such an idiot! Why did I do that!?"
Most likely we will feel better and avoid it in the future.
If you've got enough mentality to say "I'm such an idiot,"
Then you are very clearly... not an idiot.
If someone said that to you, you might get angry at them or cry. That's what your mind is doing quietly when you say things like that to yourself.
Ruby-Leigh xx
